Why adults have affairs?
Talk about a loaded subject that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Extramarital affairs can be burdened with evils, cause heartache, and other harms. In addition you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness matter, money, age dissimilarity, faith background, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I will define an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married woman looking for dating married men.
Why do people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek an extramarital affair. I am sure mostly though it is just the human nature, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and fun, and sex makes us flee the real world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to turn the longing on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos the world has erected against married dating. For many people the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but society as well. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is very pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not harm your family or anyone else? You would need to reduce the danger you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest grouping, colossal truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they feel happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your money are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them implementing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extramarital affair at times solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sadly this is a ordinary groung I fear. One or the other, as a rule the guy is sexually neglecting his lady for a tones of reasons. As a male I truly appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is not here, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed apart, our common concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.